It makes me extremely sad to see how much discrimination and stigma recovering addicts have to face. We have to overcome stigma all the time when making friends, at the doctor's office, when having a baby, and even more so in the workplace. How can it be so pervasive in a society where no one is left untouched by addiction?
Each one of us have been addicted to something or care about someone who has. Whether it be an addiction to alcohol, cigarettes, internet, sex, porn, being in love, eating or anything else. How can we lack compassion and understanding as a society when we are all affected by it one way or another? I don't get it, having been addicted has made me very compassionate and understanding.
To those people who stigmatize recovering addicts, I ask
Do you treat some addictions worst than others? Or do you see all recovering addicts as less than you. Did you know overcoming addiction builds character and life management skills that can be very valuable in relationships and in the workplace.
Do you think we are liars and thieves? Actually if we are sharing our past addiction with you I'd say we are pretty freaking honest. Do you think we are just going to slack and be lazy? I doubt it, the determination and motivation we needed to quit is still very much part of who we are.
Maybe you think we are just fuck ups and criminals. Well, I for one don't even have a criminal record and have been clean for over 6 years. Even if I had a shady past people change.
My experiences have made me a better person. I'm more aware of what's going on around me. I'm more open minded and sensitive to everyone's struggles. I see the world differently and I want to help make our world a better place.
I'm not perfect, I have some social anxiety, I'm over sensitive sometimes, I've struggled with switching my schedule around so I can wake up at a decent hour for years, I can be stubborn when it comes to defending myself and the ones I love, and I know there's more but I'm aware of my issues and I'm constantly trying to better myself.
I've come a long way and I'm proud of that, but it's disappointing that I can't share it with everyone because of the prejudice, stigma and discrimination still linked to addiction. You will never know how amazing we can be if you don't take a chance on us. Don't be part of the problem, be part of the solution.
Sincerely, Charmed
Do you think we are liars and thieves? Actually if we are sharing our past addiction with you I'd say we are pretty freaking honest. Do you think we are just going to slack and be lazy? I doubt it, the determination and motivation we needed to quit is still very much part of who we are.
Maybe you think we are just fuck ups and criminals. Well, I for one don't even have a criminal record and have been clean for over 6 years. Even if I had a shady past people change.
My experiences have made me a better person. I'm more aware of what's going on around me. I'm more open minded and sensitive to everyone's struggles. I see the world differently and I want to help make our world a better place.
I'm not perfect, I have some social anxiety, I'm over sensitive sometimes, I've struggled with switching my schedule around so I can wake up at a decent hour for years, I can be stubborn when it comes to defending myself and the ones I love, and I know there's more but I'm aware of my issues and I'm constantly trying to better myself.
I've come a long way and I'm proud of that, but it's disappointing that I can't share it with everyone because of the prejudice, stigma and discrimination still linked to addiction. You will never know how amazing we can be if you don't take a chance on us. Don't be part of the problem, be part of the solution.
Sincerely, Charmed
Here's another post on the problems with stigmatizing addicts
First, congratulations on 6 years of sobriety. I wonder what stigma addicts wear that allow others to stigmatize them. An addict will always carry baggage from a past life but that doesn't mean it must be on display. The other truth an addict must recognize is "trust". It may take longer for those we hurt to trust again...longer than it takes for the recovery tree to blossom.
ReplyDeleteThat's so true. Ive gained trust back from the people closest to me, my problem is mostly with the workplace. I've shown my blog to a few possible employers but never got a call back once they saw I was a recovering addict. No matter how interested they seemed at first they never got back to me to ask me questions. And because I want to work in the mental health field and as a writer I find my past to be an asset. Too bad the don't see it that way. Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Hope to hear from you again.
DeleteKeep it up baby, you never cease to amaze me!! D
ReplyDeleteThanks. Im glad you finally decided to come back and spend some time reading my post. You and all my readers support and comments make this whole writing thing so fufilling.
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